Thoughts on Finding a Mentor
Having a spiritual mentor is something I haven’t had for years. To be honest, I haven’t had a terribly good track record in my life with them. I tended to have people who guided me along…but an out and out mentor? I haven’t had that in awhile.
The question that first came to my mind when I was told by my group that I had to find a spiritual mentor was “Okay…how the hell do I do that?” It’s been a long while since I looked for a group, or had to find a mentor. So I thought about this for a good bit. I thought of the old “When the student is ready, the master will appear.” That seems too laid-back for me. How would the master appear if the student weren’t looking?
At first I had the thought “Alright, time to buckle down and find someone!” and then I had another one. Perhaps I shouldn’t just attack this problem, but let it unfold. One of the biggest issues I think I have had is a lack of patience, especially with myself. Then I had another thought: “Well, I basically don’t have anything to do on Sundays besides the Horarium. Perhaps I should look for a community to connect with?” So for a worship community I am looking into Unitarian Universalism, as unfortunately most of the Pagan or Pagan-oriented services I would go to are quite a ways away. If nothing else, checking it out won’t hurt. Perhaps by coming back into being part of a community rather than leading one will help me grow.
But what of a mentor? I am not sure right now. I have personal correspondence with several friends, and one of them has been kind enough to listen to my questions, doubts, and concerns in regards to Odin, and has helped me a great deal in working through the initial stages of accepting and moving forward from where I was. I am looking for a physical mentor, but if they cannot be found, I will be happy with those I have found, and those who reveal themselves to me.